Is this a source of publicity or really Tila Tequila and Ray J dating? Tila Tequila announced on her blog that she's dating rapper Ray J. She wrote in her blog: I am not dating anyone of those guys, although they are all very close friends and I have the upmost respect for them..... however......my secret boyfriend......that I have been trying to keep on the hush hush for soooo long.......is.........are you guys ready????  My real boyfriend is RAY J!!!!!  Yes.....we've been dating for a while but didn't want the media to find out cuz it's nobody's business, but since all these other random rumors starting poppin up that I'm dating so, and so, I finally felt that I needed to tell the world that rumors are NOT TRUE!!!!